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Narcissistic Abuse is Mental Abuse

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What is it?

Without broken bones or bruises, proving narcissistic abuse is beyond challenging. Narcissistic Abuse is a very malignant form Mental Abuse. Mental abuse includes coercive control, mental manipulation, triangulation, smear campaigns, and gaslighting. Understanding the very specific phases of narcissistic abuse and the correlating symptoms will help you determine if you are in a narcissistic situation and the potential damages to your mind and body.

Narcissistic abuse more often than not leads to an array of long-term physical and emotional concerns. While broken bones most likely heal, the long-terms effects of mental abuse are also physical. This is why it is crucial that legislation acknowledges and reflects through the law that mental abuse is just as traumatic and impactful as physical and sexual abuse.

"Psychological abuse involves trauma to the victim caused by verbal abuse, acts, threats of acts, or coercive tactics. Perpetrators use psychological abuse to control, terrorize, and denigrate their victims." -NCADV

What is it?

Dangers & Effects of Narcissistic Abuse

Dangers and Effects
Dangers of Narcissistic Abuse

It is widely confirmed that those who have not experienced narcissistic abuse cannot understand the horrifically destructive mental, physical, and financial effects which chronically plague traumatized victims, leaving them isolated, despondent, and fearful when seeking help, support, and safety from friends, family, therapists, doctors, and law enforcement.

Methodically, the narcissist performs a series of malevolent acts which slowly cause the victim to question their own sanity. The eventual deterioration of the victim's mind, esteem, health, reputation, credibility, and finances leave them weak and vulnerable, unable to defend themselves against the abuser's ultimate to humiliate and discard their victim.

The narcissist's fear of exposure is such a severe threat to their existence that a narcissistic will discreetly execute a plot, often with the assistance of family and friends, to discredit, discard, and destroy the victim before they have any clue, or chance to escape.

Physical Adverse Effects

Suicide & Suicidal Ideation
PTSD and/or CPTSD
Autoimmune Disease
Emotional Disregualtion
Paranoia, Fear, & Isolation
Depression, Anxiety, Confusion
Mind Looping & Insomnia
Nightmares & Night Sweats
Stomach aches & GI Concerns
Difficulty Making Decisions
Inability to Concentrate
Chronic Fatigue
Teeth Grinding
Cancer
OCD

Social and Economical
Adverse Effects

Loss of Career & Finances
Loss of home & shelter  
Damaged Reputation 
(online and in life)
Loss of Friends & Family
Chronic Low Self-Esteem 

 

Phases of Narcissistic Abuse

The phases of narcissistic abuse are across the board, textbook. A faux fairytale from the beginning, the narcissist targets and lures an unsuspecting person as a source for narcissistic supply. The person feels so lucky to have met such a wonderful and perfect match. A true prince or princess charming. Someone with whom the person can share not only dreams, but fears and past traumas, all of which will be used against them in the future.

Idealization
(Lovebombing)

Over the top attention, showering with gifts, fairy-tale like, adoption of your specific interests & hobbies. Rushed intimacy (asking you to move in, marry). Provide a "safe" place to finally share all of your vulnerabilities, secrets, and burdens.

This overwhelming love is designed to get your guard down, mesh with you, then begin DEVALUATION.

Devaluation

Critical remarks, even of things they "loved" about you in the beginning, all intended

to degrade, demoralize,

frighten, & intimidate. Coercive Control.

Blameshifting, flipping conversations, denying your observations and perception aka, GASLIGHTING.

Labeling you as crazy.

 Behind the scenes, abusers cheat, triangulate, launch a smear campaign with friends & family. Recruit "flying monkeys" to assist with the DISCARD.

Discard

Calculated rejection without warning, usually when you are at your weakest emotionally, mentally, and financially. The smear campaign convinced outsiders that you are crazy, aggressive, abusing substances; falsely depicting you as the abuser. 

Defamation of character, libel, public humiliation. Smearing your character with the local police department. Arrests under false pretenses. The shock, horror, and disbelief  of betrayal cut deeply. The body becomes stuck in Fight or Flight, followed by the onset of SYMPTOMS

Phases

For more detailed information on the phases of narcissistic abuse, visit any of our Resources.  

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