Narcissistic Abuse is Mental Abuse
What is it?
Without broken bones or bruises, proving narcissistic abuse is beyond challenging. Narcissistic Abuse is a very malignant form Mental Abuse. Mental abuse includes coercive control, mental manipulation, triangulation, smear campaigns, and gaslighting. Understanding the very specific phases of narcissistic abuse and the correlating symptoms will help you determine if you are in a narcissistic situation and the potential damages to your mind and body.
Narcissistic abuse more often than not leads to an array of long-term physical and emotional concerns. While broken bones most likely heal, the long-terms effects of mental abuse are also physical. This is why it is crucial that legislation acknowledges and reflects through the law that mental abuse is just as traumatic and impactful as physical and sexual abuse.
"Psychological abuse involves trauma to the victim caused by verbal abuse, acts, threats of acts, or coercive tactics. Perpetrators use psychological abuse to control, terrorize, and denigrate their victims." -NCADV
Dangers & Effects of Narcissistic Abuse
Dangers of Narcissistic Abuse
It is widely confirmed that those who have not experienced narcissistic abuse cannot understand the horrifically destructive mental, physical, and financial effects which chronically plague traumatized victims, leaving them isolated, despondent, and fearful when seeking help, support, and safety from friends, family, therapists, doctors, and law enforcement.
Methodically, the narcissist performs a series of malevolent acts which slowly cause the victim to question their own sanity. The eventual deterioration of the victim's mind, esteem, health, reputation, credibility, and finances leave them weak and vulnerable, unable to defend themselves against the abuser's ultimate to humiliate and discard their victim.
The narcissist's fear of exposure is such a severe threat to their existence that a narcissistic will discreetly execute a plot, often with the assistance of family and friends, to discredit, discard, and destroy the victim before they have any clue, or chance to escape.
Physical Adverse Effects
Suicide & Suicidal Ideation
PTSD and/or CPTSD
Paranoia, Fear, & Isolation
Depression, Anxiety, Confusion
Mind Looping & Insomnia
Nightmares & Night Sweats
Stomach aches & GI Concerns
Difficulty Making Decisions
Inability to Concentrate
Social and Economical
Loss of Career & Finances
Loss of home & shelter
(online and in life)
Loss of Friends & Family
Chronic Low Self-Esteem
Phases of Narcissistic Abuse
The phases of narcissistic abuse are across the board, textbook. A faux fairytale from the beginning, the narcissist targets and lures an unsuspecting person as a source for narcissistic supply. The person feels so lucky to have met such a wonderful and perfect match. A true prince or princess charming. Someone with whom the person can share not only dreams, but fears and past traumas, all of which will be used against them in the future.
Over the top attention, showering with gifts, fairy-tale like, adoption of your specific interests & hobbies. Rushed intimacy (asking you to move in, marry). Provide a "safe" place to finally share all of your vulnerabilities, secrets, and burdens.
This overwhelming love is designed to get your guard down, mesh with you, then begin DEVALUATION.
Critical remarks, even of things they "loved" about you in the beginning, all intended
to degrade, demoralize,
frighten, & intimidate. Coercive Control.
Blameshifting, flipping conversations, denying your observations and perception aka, GASLIGHTING.
Labeling you as crazy.
Behind the scenes, abusers cheat, triangulate, launch a smear campaign with friends & family. Recruit "flying monkeys" to assist with the DISCARD.
Calculated rejection without warning, usually when you are at your weakest emotionally, mentally, and financially. The smear campaign convinced outsiders that you are crazy, aggressive, abusing substances; falsely depicting you as the abuser.
Defamation of character, libel, public humiliation. Smearing your character with the local police department. Arrests under false pretenses. The shock, horror, and disbelief of betrayal cut deeply. The body becomes stuck in Fight or Flight, followed by the onset of SYMPTOMS